Tag: LGBTQ

The “friend” struck again. This time they added some unabashed racism and support of the terrorists of January 6. Oh, and they are still pissed about wearing masks and having COVID restrictions.

Happy January 6th everyone!
No really, he just said that.

But maybe he’s just being edgy, you might think. I don’t buy that. I’ve seen him support a literal fucking neo-Nazi. This ain’t a bug, it’s a goddamn feature and it’s so sick that only 3 people (one of his family members, a friend of his, and me) are publicly telling him to sit down and shut the fuck up.

If you see someone saying this kind of crap, how do you not speak up?

What happened January 6th is indefensible, and if you think it was a good thing, you need to examine yourself & think about why you are okay with trying to overthrow a democracy. You’re literally celebrating a seditious conspiracy, bro. That’s fucked up.

This is insane. JK Rowling hasn’t ever said anything against trans people. She’s spoken facts about them. But never leveled any kind of hateful or “phobic” comments.
It doesn’t matter how often you defend her, she ain’t gonna fuck you, bro.

If you think that his racism and support of terror means he’s changed his other views, don’t worry. He’s still a transphobic lout who thinks JK has never said anything transphobic whilst he’s probably in denial that he’s ever said anything transphobic.

So why have I not taken this asshole off my friends list? Honestly I’m wondering that myself. He glared at me at his sister-in-law’s wedding, so I’m guessing that I’m not the only one contemplating ending our association with one another. He’s such an awful person and I hate that he’s the brother-in-law of a person I truly adore. If I still had friendly feelings towards his wife, I’d be sad about them being married to one another, but I genuinely think they are perfect for one another based on things she’s said to me & others.

Post 1: How are you celebrating today?! 😜 Post 2: …so, Jan 6 is going to be compared to 9/11 now? Pearl Harbor? Seriously? 🙄
It’s compared to both because it’s a terror attack and an act of war against this country. You’re just okay with it because the perpetrators are people with your skin color and beliefs.
The riots in the name of “racial equality” were far worse than what happened on January 6.
For the first time since 1814, and for the first time in the 200+ years of our nation's history our own citizens, ransacked our Capitol on January 6 with the intent to (1) stop the results of a popular election from being certified, (2) hang the United States' Vice President, and (3) harm their political enemies. See our 50 states had all conducted elections and had certified the results of those elections, some of them after three recounts. That's actually what states do under the federal system our Constitution establishes. And those felons who stormed the Capitol that day tried to overthrow that Constitutional exercise of state and popular sovereignty—because they just couldn't bear the thought of anyone other than their lame duck Savior being President. So, please, explain by what measure those riots were worse than January 6.
Dollar value? Come on. And, while you're at it, please also explain why all those smashed windows and beaten cops and the images of the Traitors' flag (the stars and bars) being flown in the Union's Capitol amount to an "enhanced tour."
Notice how he never answered.
…more indoctrination by Facebook. I don’t need to care about this at all. Unlike some of the stuff they throw at me … I can’t seem to turn this one off. Strange.
Heaven forbid non-binary people want to be treated like people & have folks understand them.
This is so sad. This guy easily crushed his competition. Transgenders should just compete within their own category, if they want to compete.
While it is the very beginning of my day, this is the stupidest thing I’ve read so far. Rowling never made transphobic comments. Not agreeing with a lifestyle choice doesn’t earn the “phobic” suffix. A book series can be fun without needing to try and include every race and wacky sexuality a person may dream up. She has no obligation to anyone in her writing, except her own conscience. … and how weak-minded are these readers that they fall apart and can’t enjoy a story apart from the author’s tweets.

Chris and I were sitting at Waffle House this afternoon waiting for food. I was showing him some of the Facebook posts that were a tad fucked up—mostly science-denying, anti-mask, anti-vaxx stuff—before reporting them for spreading false information about Covid, as one does. I found a post by a “friend” about what they called: lifestyle choices.

Oh you know what they meant by that. In the year of our Lord 2021, motherfuckers are still calling being LGBTQ+a lifestyle choice. So what we’re going to is talk about some lifestyle choices.

Being a science-denying nincompoop is a lifestyle choice. It may not be a long lasting one, but it’s still one. Although one could argue that the consequences of that decision last for-fucking-ever.

It’s the one and only D-O-double G.

Getting your Thanksgiving recipes from Martha Stewart and Snoop Dogg instead of Rachael Ray is a lifestyle choice. It’s also obviously the only correct choice. No, really. If you’ve never watched Martha and Snoop, you’ve missed out.

Drinking water vs. drinking soda is a lifestyle choice. Reading more vs. watching television is a lifestyle choice. Going to church vs. not is a lifestyle choice. Wearing dresses vs. pants is a lifestyle choice. Recycling vs. not recycling is a lifestyle choice. (And I judge people who choose not to recycle.)

A lifestyle choice is something where you actually have a choice to make. Sexuality and gender identity are not choices. I’ll say it louder for the people in the back:

SEXUALITY AND GENDER IDENTITY ARE NOT CHOICES.

They are part of who you are.

Assuming you’re cisgender, did you wake up one day and decide you were going to identify most with the gender that you were assigned at birth? Or did you always feel that gender fit you?

Assuming you’re heterosexual, did you wake up one day and decide you were going to date or fall in love with people of a different gender? Or have you always been attracted to that gender?

It was the latter on both, wasn’t it?

Because. It’s. Not. A. Choice.

Common myths about being LGBTQ from edcan.ca

And it never has been a choice.

The individual who called it a choice in their post also suggested that J.K. Rowling never said anything transphobic. I’m gonna spell this out for them and anyone else who doesn’t get it, yes, she fucking did. She’s been transphobic repeatedly. She has promoted transphobia. She has denied transphobia is real. So you can fuck all the way off with that bullshit!

I’m okay. I promise. I’m calm. I’m centered. I may need to prune my friend list of transphobic, homophobic, antisemitic science-deniers. Sometimes you have to let the toxic people in your life go.

Last night, I accidentally stumbled upon a thread of trans-exclusionary radical feminists (TERFs) making assumptions about the cause of asexuality. In their opinions, it was a result of the puberty blockers given to trans and non-binary kids, of teenage girls and women in their early twenties deciding to avoid men because of things the men have learned from porn, and because people take antidepressants because they’re sad. And all of this was prefaced by an argument that accepting asexuality is some kind of conspiracy by the transgender community.

Oh. My. God.

No!

First of all, asexuality is not a result of those puberty blockers. If it was, then there would be no asexuals over the age of 18 and trans and non-binary kids would mostly be asexuals. Most aces that I know are well past 18, cisgender, and have never used puberty blockers. Most trans and non-binary folks I know aren’t asexual.

Secondly, what is the logic in saying girls are choosing asexuality because of porn & not wanting to date? That makes no sense to me. And why only girls? The first asexual person to come out to me was a man.

Their third and final “point” was just flat out mental health stigma and ableism. It’s not surprising to see a TERF say something ableist or that stigmatizes mentally ill people. In fact, it’s pretty normal for them to be bigoted on multiple fronts.

Exclusionary feminism relies on hate and misunderstanding of marginalized groups. It isn’t uncommon for a TERF or a SWERF, the sex work equivalent, to be racist, ableist, homophobic, biphobic, classist, xenophobic, fatphobic, intolerant of various religions, or sexist. Yes, they are often sexist, and they seek to uphold patriarchal values or side with groups that seek to keep cisgender women and those assigned female at birth (AFAB) stuck in gender roles that they claim to abhor. These groups even try to limit access to basic human rights for cis women and AFAB people.

TERFs will proclaim that men cannot speak for or over women and do not belong in women’s spaces, but they will encourage pile-ons and harassment campaigns by so-called radical feminists who happen to be men. These men will harass, demean, defame, and talk over cis women and trans & non-binary folks. The hypocrisy, like everything else, is based in hatred.

These individuals say that bisexual women who have dated men are heterosexual and have been tainted. It’s the same kind of bullshit that incels say about women who have had sex. The sex work exclusionary feminists push for legislation and policies that limit the ability for people who have been or currently are sex workers to have PayPal, Venmo, or bank accounts. They claim that those who seek out sex work and pornography are exploiting women and girls, but fail to understand their actions are a form of exploitation. Their outright hatred of sex positivity is yet another way that they uphold the patriarchy.

I used to say that there was nothing radical about this type of feminism, but the reality is that it’s extremely radical; what it isn’t is feminism. Exclusionary feminists are not feminists. That’s not me gate-keeping; they just aren’t feminists. They stand for absolutely nothing but hate. They do not seek liberation. They do not seek empowerment. They do not seek a better world. They only seek a more fearful world for those who they do not like. They are no different from any group that seeks to limit the rights and safety of any marginalized group.